Important: this does not say my body is a 𝐬𝐞𝐱 𝐨𝐛𝐣𝐞𝐜𝐭.
Now let’s proceed.
I’m 31 years old and I just became confident and unashamed of this.
If any of you grew up in youth group (or something similar) like me you might have carried the same sentiments — especially as women.
Your body is tempting cover it up.
Men are sexual and so our job is to not tempt them to have sexual thoughts or actions.
Save your body for marriage so that you’ll have a great gift to give to your husband.
There is a huge part of the story 𝘭𝘦𝘧𝘵 𝘰𝘶𝘵.
Women are taught that their sexuality is basically something they need to control and cover and make sure it doesn’t damage the men in their lives. We’re totally missing the boat.
For too long I felt like I had to be ashamed of my body because it could tempt a man.
Then I was taught that the purpose of my sexuality was to one day make my husband happy.
I think the narrative that is passed down in these types of environments first 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐦𝐞 for a woman and then leaves no room for a woman to feel safe and her thoughts and experiences.
Honestly — I think this leads to a lot of marital problems down the road for a lot of people.
(𝘋𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘳𝘺 — 𝘮𝘺 𝘩𝘶𝘴𝘣𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘥 𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘱𝘳𝘪𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘦 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘵. 𝘐𝘵’𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘦𝘳 𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘧𝘶𝘭- I recommend having this convo with your partner too.)
I’m not saying to throw all your morals out the window but I am challenging the system that tells women that every sense of their sexuality is harmful or is supposed to be for the purpose of our partner.
Your body does not belong to someone else.
It is both personal and a collaboration.
I think we would see a lot healthier relationship if we removed the shame and created healthier, mutually respectful spaces.